Mixed Emotions

The Church / September 17, 2008

Over the past several days, I’ve been pounded with people asking me to post an update from Sunday’s transition to two services. Unfortunately, I’ve been pretty conflicted about what to write.

I thought about writing an article about how smooth Kinetic transitioned into two services. Our production team arrived on time and setup the auditorium with time to spare. Jonathan Jackson and his team seamless rolled out a brand new lighting rig without a hitch. And for the first time in months, Diane and David Cleland attended worship together because everything was COMPLETELY COVERED in our Kinetic Kids area. How great is that?

On top of that, the service itself was great; you could sense the presence of God. I love that.

So, from that perspective, Sunday was AMAZING!

Yet, if I’m honest about how I’m feeling, I’m pretty frustrated.

Sunday, as I strolled through the hallways of the theatre, I was shocked to learn that the members of Kinetic failed to do the hard work of inviting. (though a select few got it.) That disturbed me.

Then Monday, after the numbers finally rolled in, I learned that our attendance was average at best. After signing only 6 first time visitor letters, I immediately knew that Kinetic neglected to use this transition as a chance to invest in the lives of others; an opportunity lost.

Part of me thinks that Sunday might have been the biggest exercise in missing the point that I’ve seen in a while. More work, more volunteers, longer days, and fewer invitations.

I’m saddened, because I have a burning urgency for the broken people of Charlotte. I know that Jesus has the power to transformed their lives and give meaning, forgiveness and purpose…and the call is now! The hurting need not be patient. They need not settle for good intentions or high hopes for the future. I believe that Jesus is the only source of life and am willing to do whatever it takes to help others know what it means to truly live. I am frustrated when my church fails to share my passion.

Please don’t miss my point: this is not about making Kinetic Church bigger and fatter. My goal is not to build a huge church in order to feed my ego and give me meaning. My mission is to change the city of Charlotte by introducing Jesus to everyone in the city. Evangelism is about Jesus, not about Kinetic. Yet, Jesus was clear about his purpose when he said, “I have come to seek and save the lost.” I want what Jesus wants.

I desperately want Kinetic to reach her potential. God has resourced us beyond measure. Kinetic has the talent, resources, heart and capacity to forever change the spiritual landscape of Charlotte and impact lives for eternity.

The sky is not falling. On the contrary, Kinetic is growing deeper, wider and is caring for more people than she ever has. We are in a good spot; poised and ready for God to move. We simply must be continue to be faithful to the call of God and the mission of Jesus.

Finally, if you prayed for Kinetic over the past several weeks, let me thank you for your faithfulness. God is moving and I am grateful for your prayers.

Dave Milam
Dave Milam is a pastor, communicator and the founder of One Life Church in Charlotte, North Carolina. As a a gifted communicator Dave's right brained style of delivery helps his listener connect and remember God's truth in a uniquely visual way. Connect with Dave on Google+

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on September 17, 2008

Kinetic is a church who knows how to handle disappointment and obstacles. When the trailer was stolen, it could have been a “sky is falling” moment. But God has a way of redeeming the broken messes of our lives and turning them into something beautiful. I can’t wait to see what God does with this one. For another overused analogy: It takes a long time to turn a ship around. We are a people of consumers who have been called to live a life of generosity. Our hearts are bent toward greed and self-promotion. Only when we allow ourselves to be exposed to other’s brokenness will we develop a heart of generosity. We need prophets to continually stretch and challenge us. Thanks.

on September 18, 2008

Hi, I found your blog on this new directory of WordPress Blogs at I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, i duno. Anyways, I just clicked it and here I am. Your blog looks good. Have a nice day. James.

on September 18, 2008

Cheer up, Bro! When we went to two services there was bit of a slow down, but we had to make room for growth. God brought people in because we continued to lift up Jesus and be faithful with the people that actually showed up.

Jesus prayed in John 17:6-9 “I have revealed you to the ones you gave me from this world. They were always yours. You gave them to me, and they have kept your word. Now they know that everything I have is a gift from you, for I have passed on to them the message you gave me. They accepted it and know that I came from you, and they believe you sent me. “My prayer is not for the world, but for those you have given me, because they belong to you.

Jesus was faithful with the ones God gave him… you do the same and more will come.


on September 19, 2008

it’s all good, dude. at least you don’t have people walk into your church building EVERY sunday and say to your host team: “oh, this isn’t buckhead church? oh.” and then they leave.

ha, ha.

keep going!

on September 20, 2008

I can not remember the last time I invited someone to Kinetic. That is the symptom of a bigger problem of not asking the hard questions to the people God has put in my life. I know there are people I come into contact with at the grocery store, at work, even in my family that need healing. I know the only true healing comes from Jesus. I know why i do not say anything. I do not want to be uncomfortable. I want church to be about me on Sunday morning. I do not want to have to entertain a guest. It is well past the time for me to get up and do something and I am sure there is a lot of others who feel the same way. Thanks for pushing Dave. I know that was hard to say but it needed to be said.

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