A note from Nancy

The Church / June 6, 2007

I don’t know if you know the Abshers or not. But they are an inspiring family who’s been at Kinetic from the very beginning. They have a simple faith that quietly challenges my spirit.
Anyway, here’s an edited version of from an email that Nancy sent me today (names and places have been removed to avoid lawsuits):

Dave, I was lucky enough to spend the last week in Misery (Missouri) with my daughter & family. I had a wonderful time & got to spoil my grandbaby!
I scoured the phone book looking for a contemporary Christian Church nearby. I found one that was less than 10 miles away. I called and actually spoke with, the Youth Minister. He patiently answered my questions (Will it be like my Home Church? Is it contemporary? What’s the dress code? What time does it start?). You know the drill.

On Sunday, we got up & all got ready. I’d forgotten how much time it took Loren to get ready & then more time for Griffin, the baby. We got there with time to spare. Loren didn’t want to leave Griffin in the nursery. Something about a first-time mom, strangers, her baby… I don’t know! Good thing, the guy did a public service announcement (yes, he actually said that) about needing help in the overflowing nursery. (That sounded just like something you would do!)

We may have been a little under dressed in capri’s & slacks. There weren’t many jeans there, even though they had said that the 10:30 service was more casual than the 8:30 service, and jeans were the norm. It was a nice place, nice building & grounds – churchy type. Does that make sense? No pews tho, just padded chairs. .
It wasn’t very contemporary by our standards. Maybe along the lines of Pente-Baptist. Music was a little upbeat. It wasn’t up to Daniel’s style!! They did an offering hymn & passed the plate. (Definitely Pente-Baptist!) It wasn’t a bad experience.

O.K. here’s the whole reason for my sharing! I’ve paid attention in your small group leader’s meetings, and in your loving encouragement, etc. Not one person spoke to us the whole morning, except a lady to ask if anyone was sitting in the chairs beside us. I totally understand that it was a pretty big church with 2 morning services, and lots of people go thru the doors. But no one asked us if we were visiting, if we knew where everything was? What a beautiful baby… Nothing!!! O.K. the person that handed us the bulletin, did say ‘Good Morning’. And it’s not like we were invisible. Both of us are pretty hard to miss, me & mini-me, and we were carrying a stinkin’ carseat with a 15 lb. baby in it! I was wearing a bright red sleeveless sweater!! It’s almost like they looked through us or over us.

Anyway, I’ve made an effort to speak to visitors in our lobby in the past. Yes, even people that have visited a few times. (Oops! I’m getting old & I didn’t remember speaking to you last week!!) But you can be sure that even tho I’m not on the Frontline team, I’ll be speaking to visitors. To say Good morning!, Have some coffee. The blueberry cobbler creamer is wonderful, If I can answer any questions, please let me know, have a bagel…. something! ANYTHING!!! I may not always ask them about a small group, but I’ll at least make the effort to welcome them & hope they don’t feel like we did in Missouri!



Dave Milam
Dave Milam is a pastor, communicator and the founder of One Life Church in Charlotte, North Carolina. As a a gifted communicator Dave's right brained style of delivery helps his listener connect and remember God's truth in a uniquely visual way. Connect with Dave on Google+

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